It’s January 7th 2018, and I don’t know for how long it is reasonable to talk about the ‘New Year’. One thing I do know however, is that it is always a good time to reflect upon our lives, and to consider whether there are ways we can do things differently, and to look for […]
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And so it continues. We embark upon a new moment together. I wonder what you have wondered about since reading my earlier post (above). I left you considering that perhaps universal childhood sense of a slowness of time, that somehow evaporates as adulthood rushes us from one fleeting year to the next, sometimes causing us to crash and burn through sheer exhaustion of the many things we need to get done in such a little amount of time.
And yet, perhaps we have more time than we think we have, as short as our lives may be. We fail to leave margins at the edges of our lives, and cram them so full that we can never keep up with ourselves. I’m not saying that as adults we should abandon our responsibilities so that we can gaze in absent minded wonder at the stars of our own imagining, but that perhaps we could…and should…be doing things a little differently, especially as we embark upon this new year.
What if being always active and busy with our ‘to dos’ is actually counterproductive? Perhaps all of our multitasking means that we are less focused, more anxious and more prone to making mistakes and taking longer in getting things done and having to redo a task to undo our mistakes. What if unchecked we let ourselves ‘burn out’ and in fact lose far more time than all that time we were trying to save in the first place?
There is something to be said for planning and preparing and knowing our responsibilities and dreams and setting goals to achieve them. And there is also something to be said about slowing down, and taking our time in each precious moment of our often busy and hectic lives. I can all but guarantee that if you do take your time, and see the opportunities in life’s simple (sometimes perceived as ‘mundane’) happenings, then you will find more enjoyment as you move through your days.
Maybe you can’t ‘get away from it all’, but can you get some of it away from you? Can you leave wider margins at the pages of your life as your days unfold so that you can slow down and live deeper rather than faster? Can you cut down the incessant stream of information you absorb through social media so as to be able to breathe, centre yourself and think more clearly, and perhaps spend a few more moments of your adult life enjoying the beauty of the simple things as you did as a child? Maybe instead of seeing all the chores that need to be done as a burden, you could change your perspective to gradually be able to see them as a joy? When you are present in the moment to be thankful for the ability to be able to perform such tasks, and even perhaps listen to some nice music or encouraging talks while you are doing what you are doing? I have started listening to my MP3 while vacuuming, and finding that I end up doing a more thorough job because I am enjoying myself and want to make the experience last a little longer – strange but true, I know! Or that when doing the dishes I might slow down to notice the warmth of water and the playfulness of the foam bubbles, and might be listening to something encouraging or inspiring at the same time. You might have a busy and hectic life, but there are ways in which all of us can widen those margins in our lives, and take time not just to exist, but to LIVE.
When thinking about your goals for this year, if you think that way in the first place, you might find that a more intentional way of living and doing the things that you otherwise would just like to get out of the way actually frees you to be more present, feel more connected with yourself and those around you, and be far more productive and efficient as you begin to learn and find new imaginative ways to enjoy the process of the everyday things of your life.
Which in turn ultimately means that you have more ‘breathing space’ to be able to more intentionally pursue those loftier goals that you may have, and to use your time on this earth each day as wisely as you can. For I assure you there is no one else on earth like you, who can express life the way you can and with the uniqueness that you have. And perhaps someone else in this life’s journey needs to hear what you have to say, or see that smile you have to offer when you have time to notice the beauty around you which you could not offer when otherwise stressed, anxious or preoccupied. You have something so special to give each and everyday, so first give yourself that breathing space, slow down, live a little deeper, so that this year ahead you will live more fully and deeply rather than just existing or getting by. I would love to see what you have to offer the world, and to hear of your hopes, dreams, goals and plans, and wish you wisdom, love and blessing in the year to come. x