Are you living the life of your dreams?

This post is probably not quite what you might expect it to be. Why? Because often when we are asked that question it is by ‘motivational speakers’ or writers who seek to spur you on to self-improvement. What you will read here will be a different approach to this age-old question.

Are you living the life of your dreams?”

The answers you find may surprise you. I imagine that most people when faced with this question think of it in terms of the ever unmet horizon. ‘Dreams’ after all are those wondrous little fantasies that no one ever really gets to. Or are they?

I also think that many if not most of us fail to notice or to realise when we are living our dreams, because we live them in a real world with real issues and challenges. And so perhaps we fail to see just how wonderful our lives actually are.

To dream is to imagine that which is not quite within our reach.

Take a few minutes and try this with me. Think of your life right now. Take a deep breath in, and let it out slowly. Now, calm and relaxed think of the things in your life that you have that you once only dreamed of having. Not necessarily material things, but just everything you value as being part of your ‘dream life’.

Let me share some things with you.

A few years ago I dreamed of being healthy again. Of not having panic attacks every day or week or nightmares and of not merely just surviving each day.

Has this dream come true? Yes. Now is the time to pause and to notice and appreciate it.

When I was younger I dreamed of someday ‘traveling the world’. As an adult I have now been to a fair few countries, some of which I went to as a solo traveller. I’ve been to Italy, America, France, Germany, India, Oman, Austria, Switzerland, Netherlands, Hungary, the Czech Republic, UK, Guernsey, among possibly a few others. I may not have travelled the world, and there is so much of this wide world that I’m yet to see, and parts of the world that I will never see, yet travel even on the small scale has been part of my life, and I could say I’ve been living my dreams.

I used to dream, as a little girl and as a teenager, of being a writer. Of living in a log cabin in the woods somewhere and writing beautifully. I dreamed of getting my books published and of being a famous author. As I have grown into the adult that I am, the practicalities of living in a log cabin don’t quite suit my sensibilities. That’s not to say that a quiet retreat in nature every now and then doesn’t draw me in…it does, and I have created such spaces for myself. I have had a couple of factual pieces published, but I’m not a famous author. Fame doesn’t draw me as I am writing for The One Who sees and knows me, and that is where all the appreciation and validation comes from. Yet writing is a huge part of my life. Blogging is a wonderful outlet for me and I continue to work slowly and steadily away at my novel and other pieces of fiction in my spare time. I write also to directly encourage other people – friends and family and in my university days I wrote letters as part of a human rights group to help free prisoners and those unfairly detained or treated. So, yes, I am in a sense living my dreams in this regard too. Perhaps in a humble fashion, yet I am still free to express my soul.

Do I appreciate this? If I take the time to.

What about the people in our lives? Perhaps our parents, our siblings, our childhood friends and new friends we’ve made along the way? Did you dream of getting married and now have a spouse and a family of your own? Do you really pause to notice these things, or do you take them for granted because they’re not perfect?

When asked if you are living your dreams aren’t you likely to shrug and say ‘not really?’. If so, could this be because you let the daily annoyances and nuisances of life cloud your vision from seeing all the dreams that have and are actually coming true?

Did you dream of being a grown up and having your own place and going out to dinner with your friends? This is a dream that I am living but one that I probably take for granted with it having become ‘normal’.

You will always have something that feels just that little bit ‘out of reach’ for you. Because our hearts are created for so much more than all this frail world has to offer us. We are created for Pure and Perfect Love and for Eternity, so there will always in this life be that yearning for that ‘something more’. Yet that is not to say that we can’t be content or satisfied. We live in a broken world, and yet dreams can still flourish here if we let them….and if we recognise them.

So take a moment today to pause, to reflect and to truly appreciate all the things about your life: the people, the relationships, the material blessings, the opportunities, the health and abilities you have that are in fact all elements of the ‘life of your dreams’. You are living your dreams in a real world, so don’t fail to wake up and realise and appreciate that as and when you can, even while you pursue those dreams yet to come.  Someday they may come true so prepare yourself to appreciate them by simply appreciating all the blessings and ‘dreams come true’ that you have in your life today.


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10 thoughts on “Are you living the life of your dreams?”

  1. Very intricate and cerebral articles here! I’ll have to get a block of time and examine them carefully for their quality and meaning on many levels. As I took a quick scroll through the page the one line where you said; “of being a writer. Of living in a log cabin in the woods somewhere and writing beautifully. I dreamed of getting my books published and of being a famous author.” This jumped out to me because I thought that same thing many years ago and even a novel that I began back then when living in California for a few years is still on the back burner but seems to have dovetailed well with my actual life altering events over the last dozen years, to the point where that idea of being in the cabin isolated and producing he full manuscript while actually being the main character of the original story by fate or circumstance will culminate in a surreal spiritual fulfillment and revelation; like a self-fulfilled prophecy. So by a tiny twist of fate you got me thinking and seeking truth and answers to some long unanswered questions.
    God Bless You.

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    1. Hi Lawrence,

      I’m grateful and humbled by your comments. Thank you for reading my blog, for considering it so carefully, and for setting aside time to contemplate what I’ve written as to how it relates to your life. This is truly one of the most sincere and thoughtful comments on my blog, so thank you again. You sound like life has taught you a lot of interesting and challenging things. It is intriguing how something can lead us to reinvest in a dream or a search we had maybe let go of for some time. I hope that you find the fulfilment and the time and space to express your deep thoughts and life lessons in a way that enriches your life. God Bless you too.

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      1. I too am humbled to have met you here this way and read your so eloquent and heartfelt words of love and appreciation for all God has put before us, and allows us to use our own gifts to seek greater understanding of His plan for each of us as we, yes at times struggle, but along the way are able to see it’s never in vein; because He knows everything about each of us done to the last atom and with Him leading the way no mountain is too high to climb nor ocean so vast that we aren’t able to cross it! I think of two things right now from what you have said here and what came up in a telephone conversation with one of my closest sisters just now; then immediately my getting online and seeing this notice from you.
        Allow me to quote for you here. “ The 23rd Psalm is one of the best-known and most-loved literary works in the world, and it may well be the best poem ever written. It is also a fine example of the power of figurative language: We read deep things into the vision of ourselves as sheep, led to green pastures and good water by a kind shepherd.”
        “The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
        He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
        He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.
        Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
        Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.
        Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever.”

        I reminded my sister of something that she had not thought of but was so happy to hear.

        “But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9

        The meaning and depth of the thoughts expressed in these words, to me can only come from a divine power that knows us better than we know ourselves far beyond any mere human capacity; and which reaches out into our very hearts and souls to comfort us, giving inner strength if we will accept it, so that we can face any and all challenges ahead; because we can rest assured we are never alone. He our God will never allow us to be forsaken or lost if we continue to abide in Him for our needs, following and trusting Him who gives us all, He who has so much more to give beyond our wildest imaginations.
        Your words from your sincere deep inner thoughts speak to several vitally important primary factors of our purpose for living here on earth. You mentioned, “It is intriguing how something can lead us to reinvest in a dream or a search we had maybe let go of for some time.” This is so important and yes that can and does happen, how a thing can lead to our reinvesting in an idea, a hope or dream, actually even in ourselves again, which is so true and I think we all need this to happen in our lives from time to time. That spark is all that is needed sometimes and it can come from anywhere at any moment but when it does and we recognize what it is we needed to see clearly or from a proper perspective of perhaps more insight and wisdom, seeing truth; then a spark leads to a fire of passion and determination that nothing can extinguish not in this world or beyond it, because we have God on our side! We then can become larger than life and these mere bodies that serve as a vessel temporarily. We grow and expand into the universe to get closer to and touch God; getting to have that more personal relationship we all desperately need with Him.
        Thank You again and Your Thoughts and Blessings are greatly appreciated. I’m sure we will have more to engage in as opportunity presents itself, and I’m always interested in such things as these.
        God Bless You.

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      2. You’re welcome and I’m thinking lots more too! Let’s see where this goes, I’m sure somewhere interesting and good. OH, and if you think of something to ask me or want to tell me anything just let her rip!

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  2. You’re very kind! That is a great thing to be honored and cherished, so little of it in this fast world of self! It must also be respected and protected, like any precious flower, it deserves such glory! After all, God must be so unbelievably kind!

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